When You Can't Trust Someone....MOVE ON!

When is enough, enough?  No I’m talking about the snow again, though on a side note big storm tomorrow that will last two days.  Yippeee!!!  I’m actually talking about relationships and fighting.  When is it too much to deal with and time to give up?  I have a friend who’s been seeing a girl for about 4 to 5 years.  It’s 4 to 5 because there was a brief time of about 8 months where they were sort of separated.  I say sort of because she was seeing someone else but still banging my buddy.  Anyway, these two people fought so much that both were walking on eggshells 85% of the time they were together.  Neither of them trusted each other and I can’t tell you how many times both of them were “done” but got back together the next day.  It was almost comical.  My buddy would come over and talk to my wife and I for 5 hours about how much he hated her and how he was done, then two days later they’d be together like nothing happened.  It was a relationship that was so sad it became funny and that we all behind their back would take bets on if the upcoming weekend they’d be together or apart.

I guess the biggest issue in their relationship was trust.  They couldn’t trust each other and it constantly was an issue.  If you don’t have trust in a relationship, you mine as well call it quits because it’s never going to work.  These two had so many trust issues it was insane.  When they weren’t together they automatically thought that the other was seeing someone else.  It was crazy!

Another issue was that they she was so selfish that there was no compromise.  It was either her way or the highway and a relationship will never work if there is no compromise.  Both people have to be willing to give and take and unfortunately for my buddy, there was no give on her end.  Just a lot of taking and he is a little to blame because he was “cool” with it for most of the time they were together.  He gave in way too much and she kept taking advantage of it.

This weekend shit hit the fan and I firmly believe they are done.  There was an accidental voice message left that she heard and went ape shit mad.  I think he did it self-consciously because he wanted it to end but didn’t know how to do it.  He came over yesterday and after our conversations, I firmly believe he’s done and going to move on.  Good riddance.  He’s too good of a guy to put up with this and we’ve been telling him that for almost 3 years.  In the end, I guess you have to figure it out yourself no matter how stupid you look during the moment.  And believe me he made himself look like a complete buffoon.  I just hope he’s really done because I don’t know if I can keep up the support when I know the relationship is never going to work.

Maybe it’s me but if you can’t trust someone and you’re fighting 80% of the time it’s time to call it quits.  It’s just never going to work…