I find it weird how friends enter and exit your life. Last night I hung out with a couple of friends that I haven’t been able to get together with for over a month due to the holidays and hectic schedules. It got me thinking about one of them, Doug, who I didn’t even know two years ago. He was dating a friend of my wife’s and one night we all hung out and we just clicked. It’s like we were friends for years. Since then he’s been one of my best friends and I’m even in his wedding this upcoming June.
On Christmas Eve, I received a text from a friend that I used to go to grammar school with. We were best friends from Kindergarten all the way up through eighth grade. We both went to different high schools and lost touch but he saw me on Facebook and e-mailed me to get my number and we were texting away on Christmas Eve. We’ve made plans to get together and get back to when were close and in a way I hope that happens. Maybe it’s me but it’s a shame that we don’t talk or hang out anymore. We used to be so close. How does that happen? How can you go from best friends to never seeing each other? Not only that but how does it happen so quickly?
All these things got me thinking to what my son said a couple weeks ago. He’s in first grade and noticed out loud that some of his friends from Kindergarten don’t talk to him anymore because they are in different classes now in first grade. It seemed like he missed them and was wondering why they aren’t friends anymore. I thought about it and told him not to worry because the friends he’s talking to right now, probably won’t be his friends when he goes to high school. I told him friends come and go and sadly it’s just a part of life.
All these recent events have led me to that exact thinking. Friends simply come and go and you really have no control over it. People grow apart, people move, and there are just way too many people weaving in and out of your life, that it’s hard to keep a close knit group of friends. It’s a shame but at the same time, I guess it’s expected. When you’re young, you’re kind of confined to the people that are in your school class or on your block where you live. As you progress in life and get older, you’re able to branch out to meet new people with a car, parties, college and then your job. The more freedom you have, the more people are going to be in and out of your life.
The point of this ramble is to cherish the friends that you have now because who knows if they’ll be there in a week, month or even a year. Build these relationships so that time can’t come between them. Make sure there is no growing apart but instead growing together. Sappy I know but it bothers me that friends from ten years ago are not the same as they are now. Think about it. If you’re like me, you probably have a new group of “close” friends then what you had ten years ago. Maybe it’s me but friends shouldn’t change with the times, they should be there for the long haul.
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