As you know from my last post early last week, I lost a close friend and though it’s been difficult to get over, I think I’m finally starting to move on from it. Life’s pretty funny sometimes, though. My best friend and his wife were expecting their first child any moment last week and on Friday they welcomed in a beautiful baby girl. I’m so happy for them, as they get to join the “club” and know all the trials and tribulations that come with being a parent. I found it strange and albeit a little comical that I lost someone in my life then coincidentally exactly a week later, I gain a new person into my life. I don’t buy into religion and I’m still not sold on the whole God thing but if there is such a thing, he certainly likes to keep me on an even slate of people in my life.
I’ve been asked by a couple people that by being around this newborn has it given me the “itch” to have another and I can wholeheartedly say, HECK NO! My wife on the other hand is ready to do it TODAY, so I’ll have to beat her off with a stick the next couple of days. It’s not that I hate babies or anything, I just think with our current financial situation and how well things are going in our lives that throwing a baby wrench into the machine just isn’t the smartest thing to do. I’ll admit it, having a baby is an amazing process and the end result of all the bullshit of pregnancy and the first year of baby stuff is worth it but it’s a very costly and stressful ordeal. My wife and I have it great right now with our 6 year old and I don’t want to mess that up. I love that I can talk and hang out with my 6 year old. He’s like a real person now and quite frankly I really don’t want to start over. People seem to think that I’m being selfish but I think I’m just being realistic. Babies are great but when you have a good thing going, I think you should keep it going. Why mess it up? Maybe it’s me but I think my life and the life of my wife and son are perfect right now, so why change it?
I worry about having another baby mostly for financial reasons and there are so many people out there that say I shouldn’t think about that. You know who those people are, my parents, my wife’s parents and dummies that have 2 or more kids that don’t DO anything in their lives. Whenever I heard my parents or my mother in law bother me about having another baby and I respond with the financial reason and they roll their eyes and say it’s not about the money, I laugh. Both of our parents really don’t own anything. They both still currently rent and to my knowledge don’t have any financial stability. Yes, they made due, but I don’t want to make due, I want to provide more for my child and see the world and go on extravagant vacations. Does that make me a bad person? I don’t think so. Maybe it’s me but having a baby is expensive and to me making due isn’t acceptable…..
Congrats Jeffrey and Kimmy and welcome to the world Natalie!
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